“Pyaar Dekh Kar Hi Hota Hai,” Dushyant Kukreja Take On Love Will Leave You Wondering

You don’t usually expect a conversation about the science of love to unfold over plates of chole bhature and kachoris. Yet that’s exactly what happened on the latest episode of Tere Gully Mein with Dushyant Kukreja. As we wound through the crowded lanes of Purani Delhi, with stops for aloo puri, kachori, and some of the city’s most beloved street food, the conversation drifted toward relationships. What started as casual banter soon became an intense discussion on something almost everyone thinks they understand: love.

Is Love Really A Calculation? Dushyant Kukreja Thinks So

Dushyant Kukreja had a take that would probably make every Bollywood screenwriter uncomfortable. For most of us, love is supposed to be the one place where logic goes to die. We’ve grown up on stories that celebrate irrational decisions, following your heart, and ignoring red flags because “when it’s love, you just know”.

Dushyant doesn’t buy it! In fact, he thinks people give the heart far too much credit.

Speaking about relationships, he pointed out something many people have experienced but rarely articulate. When you’re with someone, you often notice their flaws more than their value. Their habits irritate you. Then they leave, and suddenly the equation changes.

You find yourself remembering things differently. The person you were once frustrated with becomes the person whose absence you can’t stop noticing. For Dushyant, that’s where the real test begins.

If somebody exits your life and you’re back to normal within days, perhaps the connection wasn’t as deep as you believed. But if two years have passed and you still feel their absence in everyday moments, if moving on feels less like a decision and more like a task your mind refuses to complete, then maybe that was real love.

The conversation took an interesting turn when we challenged him on one thing. Why does love need so much analysis? Isn’t the whole point of love that it comes from the heart?

Dushyant’s response was blunt enough to stop the conversation in its tracks. If love had nothing to do with thought, preference, or judgement, then humans would love everyone equally, he argued. But that’s not how attraction works. We choose! 

And according to him, those choices aren’t random acts of fate. They’re the result of countless calculations happening inside our brains, many of them so subtle that we never notice them.

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Dushyant Kukreja Gets Philosophical About Love & Relationships

The word “calculation” often sounds cold and almost transactional. Dushyant wasn’t talking about money, status, or what someone can offer materially. He was talking about the invisible assessments we make every day.

His most unexpected example came from childhood.

People often describe childhood friendships, first crushes, and school-day attachments as the purest form of love because they’re untouched by adult concerns. Yet even there, Dushyant sees calculation at work.

Calculations like the classmate who sat next to you every day, the friend who helped with homework and the person who shared lunch. Affection didn’t appear out of thin air! 

It grew from repeated interactions, comfort, familiarity, and attachment.

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